Episode 22: What We Get Wrong About Bisexuality

Bisexuality continues to be one of the most misunderstood and controversial sexualities. Some people don’t think it exists at all and that it’s just a transitional identity people adopt before coming out as gay. Also, even among those who recognize that bisexuality exists, many believe things about it that aren’t true, such as the idea that bisexuality necessarily means equal attraction to men and women, or that bisexuals can only be attracted to partners within the gender binary. It’s time to bust some myths about bisexuality. For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I interviewed Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, sex expert, and activist whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, culture, and the LGBTQ community. He has a sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It” and his work has been published in Rolling Stone, The Washington Post, GQ, Playboy, and more. He also has a weekly newsletter, titled BOYSLUT, where he writes erotic essays. In this episode, we talk all things bisexuality. We also discuss the taboos around sex toys for men and answer sex questions submitted by my Instagram followers. Things you’ll learn include: What does it really mean to be bisexual? What’s the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality? What are the most common things people (and popular media portrayals) get wrong about bisexuality? How can bisexual people better navigate relationships in the face of bisexual stigma? How are bisexuals viewed within the LGBTQ+ community, and how can we increase bisexual acceptance? How do we break the taboo around sex toys for men? For men who are new to using sex toys, where’s a good place to start? Is simultaneous orgasm a realistic goal during sex? How can you tell if someone is flirting versus just being friendly? Why is pegging so popular? To learn more about Zach and his work, check out his website here, where you can subscribe to his newsletter and keep up with his latest writings. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos and book covers used with guest permission.